This is a difficult question, and I really believe that it depends on the situation. On one hand, "falling in love" is much more enjoyable and most people believe that it is the ultimate goal in a person's life. On the other, "love" isn't always real, and when it fades, a married couple may find themselves out of love and stuck with a person that they have nothing in common with. This may be part of the reason that there are so many divorces going on these days.
For me, "learning to love" always conjures up mental images of arranged marriages, young brides, and formal awkwardness. In general, this term only applies to arranged marriages, which modern American society tends to view with horror. It is true that in many of the countries where arranged marriage is practiced today, women are dehumanized and young girls are sold to much older men and often abused. However, a few years ago I was reading an article online about arranged marriages in modern times. I seem to remember it being about several Indian (and by that I mean from the country of India, not Native American) people who had either been in arranged marriages or had arranged marriages for their children, or both, etc. I actually found it quite surprising. I don't know if this is true for all families, but the parents in the article took great care in picking spouses for their children. They looked for ones with compatible personalities, and they didn't force their children to marry against their will. They truly did want them to be happy. Many of the people that had been in arranged marriages said that they were very happy with their spouses and had either "fallen in love" early on or had grown to love them.
In conclusion, I really can't answer that question. It always depends on the circumstances. However, I think that both of them are definite possibilities.
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I agree with you in that I have also heard some stories of arranged marriages that turned out well. However, what do you mean when you say married couples run out of love and are stuck together? I think that you would marry a person only if you really loved them, and that would not be a reason for the many divorces these days.
hey, this is Lisha from korea.
I completely agree with you in the part where you said "when married couples run out of love, they are stuck with someone who don't share any common facts together." yes, in my opinion, i don't think married couples live with their spouses for the rest of their lives because they love each other; i think it's only out of the responsibility they have about their children, "family", and etc. also, they will need someone to be with when they get old, you know? :P anyways, good writing!
Hi, nice to meet you.
This is Taeyoung from Korea, Busan.
I think 'falling in love' is much more enjoyable.
In my opinion, love is made by destiny. So we can feel something strange when we fall in love.
Umm, I hope you can experience a real love.
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